One Mans Victory over Anger

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Not every man who comes through the shelter ends in a success story.  And for many the definition of success depends on the person and the situation.

David came through the shelter program at CFH  with the intent to change his life.  There were some 2 steps forward and 1 step back situations — but then don’t we all experience that at times.  He put Jesus in the middle of his life, was baptized and began a journey that has resulted in a good job, a wonderful new relationship, and positive attitude.  In response to our last blog on anger, David wrote the following:

You can’t kill anger with anger! Forgiveness and love will kill anger. I was very angry at people and situations for many years and all this was doing was killing me. By practicing prayer and forgiveness I was able to overcome this bout. Although it occasionally flares up again I have found a way rather than anger that works much better. At first I knew it was not going to work, in fact,  I told the person who suggested this remedy to #!%# off.  The remedy which ended sleepless nights and wheels from constantly turning in my brain was in fact praying for the person who I was angry at. Although I don’t agree with what this person did to me is ok, I can now move on and help others who have gone through similar things by sharing how I am coping.
Killing anger with anger did not work for me for 30 years so I started practicing killing anger with love and it worked almost immediately.  Please give it a try for a week or two and if it don’t work you can go back to your old ways. Thanks.

Practice what you preach, right.  During the Christmas holiday, David was severely injured in a head on auto accident precipitated by an elderly man who had a medical emergency…not David’s fault.  He will be off work for 2 months or more.  Seeing David in his hospital bed, then wheel chair at home with casts on arm and leg, one might give some room for anger and bitterness.  Not David.  Perhaps he has a moment or two here and there, but I don’t see it.

God’s playbook, the Bible, along with those that love and support us,  and prayer, give all the support and wisdom we need to make it through this life with a positive outlook and love for others.  Thanks, David!!!

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Paul has worked with hundreds of individual clients from executives to recent college graduates related to career transition and life coaching. Paul holds a Master’s Degree in Psychology. He has written a book, How a Man Handles Conflict at Work. Paul founded (1991) the Career/Life Institute and provides coaching, organizational design and career transition serving clients ranging from large organizations to family owned enterprises. He served as a consultant to management teams, and had senior positions for Bank of America, Right Associates and CRISTA Ministries. His ministry outreach includes Poland, Romania, and 11 trips to Ethiopia. He volunteers for Congregations for the Homeless in Bellevue, WA.

1 Comment

Sue · February 14, 2017 at 11:37 am

Great article, thank you Paul, thank YOU, DAVID!

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