Victim: To Be Or Not To Be
Ever been a victim? robbery; assault; falsely accused; bullied; family “conspiracy;” an unfair boss; or who knows what? Remaining as a real or perceived victim is not good for physical, mental or spiritual health. There is always a way out.
We are never too old to get a fresh perspective on a subject. Jeanne and I have been reading a book: The Power of TED. The author’s solution to escape “victimhood” is to move to the status of “creator.” Creator is a role, and not meant to be mistaken for the Creator of the Universe.
A personal story: For eight years I had a boss that I believed did not appreciate me, held me back and did not focus on my talents. I saw him as a “persecutor”, and Jeanne heard my regular complaints. In my mind I was a victim. In year 6, I became a follower of Jesus.
In time, Jeanne reminded me of bible verses* that pointed me toward achieving “creator” status (and in a loving way indicated I had been acting counter to my new faith). I changed my thought process and vision of what a positive relationship with the boss could be. I began to give a good report to others about him and chose to listen and learn. I killed thoughts of being a victim. I was becoming a “creator” with the help of God, Jeanne and a new attitude. I saw positive change in my manager’s attitude towards me.
The result: The two of us developed a lifelong friendship. He, his wife and family eventually accepted Jesus as Lord. All this happened because I moved from “victim” to “creator.” Jeanne did not criticize me or rescue me-she became a coach not a rescuer. The “creator” is freed from “victim” status — no longer controlled by a person, event or life situation.
The Power of Ted is not a Christian book but has a spiritual component and the concept is very biblical. I suggest reading the book or sharing the You Tube link.
*Transformational Verses assisting us to move from victim to creator:
Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…..Romans 12:1-2
For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love and of a sound mind. II Timothy 1:7
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9
Paul Have a wonderful, victim-free day 35th Anniversary Verses 18-19-20/35