Overcoming Anger Part III Final
I love the guys staying in our winter shelter — some looking to change their lives and others just existing. Those attending our anger management class today, want a solution. Managing emotion and anger requires adopting core beliefs, taking key steps with some new thinking and then practice, practice, practice. Nobody says the process below is easy but it works.
Core Beliefs-Giving the Confidence to Overcome:
- I have value-I’m created in God’s image, no one can take that from me
- No person or situation can make me angry
- My manhood is not diminished, nor is there shame, by taking steps to deescalate my emotion
- I have God’s power to overcome any situation (I have not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind). Jesus is my friend.
Key Steps To Short Circuit Anger
- I acknowledge a swelling of emotion: anger, anxiety, frustration
- I choose to pause and reflect between emotion and reaction
- I am in control with God’s help regardless of the issue
- I acknowledge there may be another point of view in the situation
- I choose not to respond with yelling, rage, self-criticism, judgment, bitterness
- I will try to identify the “trigger” that set off the emotion
- I am prepared to give/receive forgiveness
- I will tell somebody of the self-control I exhibited in containing my emotion/anger
Having approached a potential anger situation, with a proactive mindset, a man is now prepared to engage the cause –a person or event — in a positive manner. Of course, at times, there will be a range of anger expressed. With practice and experience, a new pattern of learning and thinking will preempt the intense anger of the past. Pray for these men that God loves.
I wonder if there is anyone you know outside of the shelter that might benefit from this process. What do you think?
“A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.” Proverbs 15:18 NIV