BFF is More Than an Abbreviation

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My recent Facebook posting of baseball teammates and longtime friends, drew a lot of comments.  I have been blessed with friends who have cared, counseled, confronted, and encouraged me.  Jeanne and I have friends who have endured with us over the good, and the challenging, times.  What are a few key elements to being a friend:

  • The sharing of mutual interests
  • A sense of trust and truth in the relationship
  • A genuine caring
  • An essence of presence even when absent
  • Staying in touch (a call, card, social media, prayer for, coffee or just a drop in)
  • Forgiveness (friends are not perfect)

Of course my best friend is my sidekick, supermom/grandmom, CFO, CTO, CIO, Master Chef and Gardener, life coach and walking partner of 51 years – Jeanne.  This relationship is a blessing from God.

Best Friend

Christopher Robin shared with Pooh: If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together, there is something you must always remember.  You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.  But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart, I’ll always be with you.” 

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.  “Pooh?” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand.  “I just wanted to be sure of you.” 

At times a personal evaluation is in order: Am I a good friend? Do I need a friend? Is repair of a friendship the right thing to do? We usually will find good counsel and answers with a friend.  The world can be a lonely place without trusted friends.

My faith walk has been about a relationship, not religion and the model comes from three key verses in the bible spoken by Jesus:  13Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14You are my friends if you do what I command. 15I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.  John 15:13-15

Now there is a friendship with long term benefits!  Have a wonderful day!

Paul   (Key Verse 17/35 celebrating 35 years of Living Perspectives)







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Paul has worked with hundreds of individual clients from executives to recent college graduates related to career transition and life coaching. Paul holds a Master’s Degree in Psychology. He has written a book, How a Man Handles Conflict at Work. Paul founded (1991) the Career/Life Institute and provides coaching, organizational design and career transition serving clients ranging from large organizations to family owned enterprises. He served as a consultant to management teams, and had senior positions for Bank of America, Right Associates and CRISTA Ministries. His ministry outreach includes Poland, Romania, and 11 trips to Ethiopia. He volunteers for Congregations for the Homeless in Bellevue, WA.

1 Comment

Wayland J Cossey · July 13, 2017 at 10:18 am

Enjoyed reading this Paul…thank you.

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